THE FOUR AGREEMENTS
1. Be impeccable with your word.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean.
Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.
Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.
4. Always do your best.
Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance simply do your best and you will avoid self judgment, self abuse, and regret.
An inspirational and potentially life changing book, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the self limiting and self defeating beliefs that so many of us hold dear and offers an alternative life approach. Now if I could only remember and live out each of the Four Agreements on a daily basis. That’s my goal this week.
The type of life we live and the way we feel and experience each day begins with the quality and direction of our thoughts. And like anything else practice makes perfect. I first read The Four Agreements over 5 years ago and have since reread it just about every year but I have never made a conscious effort to incorporate it into my daily life until now. Like so many other inspirational and motivational texts, I read it and filed it away somewhere in a back corner of my mind only to be reminded of it when I have strayed so far away from its essential teachings.
In order to reach my week’s goal of remembering and living out the four agreements this is what I’m doing for the next seven, well now six, days:
- First thing in the a.m. – Read and meditate on The Four Agreements.
- In the middle of the day – Review how well I’ve kept The Four Agreements specifically thinking about any moments of confusion, misunderstanding, or heightened emotions and understanding how my wrong thinking (i.e. – assumptions or taking things personally) factored into this.
- Before I go to sleep – Review when I did well and when I did not so well and keep that in mind for the next day.
Here’s to day one of keeping The Four Agreements.